Givers Need Boundaries Too

Some people are givers.
Some people are takers.

And here’s the hard truth most givers learn the long way:

Takers don’t stop taking on their own.

Givers lead with their hearts. We offer time, energy, second chances (third chances… forth chances…), and the benefit of the doubt. We give because it feels right. Because we care. Because we remember what it felt like to struggle and wish someone had shown up when we needed it.

But giving without boundaries isn’t kindness.
It’s self-harm. It’s also incredibly disempowering.

Takers will take what you offer…
Then what you didn’t mean to offer…
Then what you never should have had to give in the first place…

This is where givers get it wrong.
We confuse over-giving as a good thing. It’s what we think we need to do.

It isn’t.

Setting boundaries doesn’t make you cold.
It protects you.

It says, “I care about you, but I care about myself too.”
It says, “I can help, but I can’t carry you.”
It says, “This is where my responsibility ends, and yours begins.”

I pray I never become a taker.
But I also pray I never become a giver who forgets their own self-worth.

Because the world doesn’t need burnt-out, resentful, empty people who used to be kind.
It needs whole, grounded, self-respecting givers who know when to say yes, and when to say no. Especially now.

If you’re a giver, listen up!

You are allowed to stop explaining.
You are allowed to pull back.
You are allowed to protect your energy.

Boundaries aren’t walls.
They’re just kind of like guardrails.

And the right people won’t resent them.
They’ll respect you for having them.

Love you!